There are a few “wedding rules” that have come about by keeping with tradition. While traditions can be fun, sentimental and somewhat nostalgic, we believe that if they cause more worry than happiness, it’s okay to break a few.
Take these wedding rules, for example.
WHO PAYS:
Every couple funds the festivities in different ways. Maybe your mom and dad want to pay for every single thing, but, unlike in the past where the bride’s family was expected to foot the whole bill, they’re in no way obligated to now. Grooms’ parents and the couples themselves chip in nearly as often as brides’ parents do. It just depends on your family’s situation. If you’d like your fiancé’s parents’ help, your husband-to-be will need to ask for it — not you, and certainly not your parents. Just remember: Whoever pays gets a say. If you know your mother-in-law will insist on an in-church ceremony if she contributes and you’ve got your heart set on exchanging vows on a sandy beach, you may be happier cutting your guest list than asking her to contribute anything.
Every couple funds the festivities in different ways. Maybe your mom and dad want to pay for every single thing, but, unlike in the past where the bride’s family was expected to foot the whole bill, they’re in no way obligated to now. Grooms’ parents and the couples themselves chip in nearly as often as brides’ parents do. It just depends on your family’s situation. If you’d like your fiancé’s parents’ help, your husband-to-be will need to ask for it — not you, and certainly not your parents. Just remember: Whoever pays gets a say. If you know your mother-in-law will insist on an in-church ceremony if she contributes and you’ve got your heart set on exchanging vows on a sandy beach, you may be happier cutting your guest list than asking her to contribute anything.
REHEARSAL DINNERS:
You can skip a rehearsal dinner. When couples lived separately before they got married and engagements were a few weeks long, not a year or more, the rehearsal dinner was the first time both sets of parents could meet. Since the mothers and fathers of the bride and groom would be responsible for introductions at the wedding the next day, they needed to see each other first! Having a rehearsal dinner is still smart when your and your fiancé’s parents aren’t acquainted, but if there’s no time or room in the budget, then it’s okay to skip it, especially if your ceremony rehearsal has to take place on a weekday or minutes before your actual wedding. It’s nice to treat out-of-towners to a welcome meal, or you can just gather your closest local friends and family for a prewedding dinner, but neither is required. Ask anyone who tells you otherwise if they’d like to plan and pay for it!
For more wedding rules that are made to be broken click here.
Your wedding day is supposed to be something you and your fiance remember for the rest of your lives, so don’t be afraid to break tradition and make your wedding day exactly what you’ve have always dreamed!
